A Thoughtful Day Before 2012!!!...

On the verge of entering yet another 'New Year', it is the time when some people think of turning a new leaf over in their lives while others recapitulate past events and revisit long-lost memories, wondering about where this journey of life has brought them and what's in store for them further ahead!...As for me, despite the cold winter chilling me to the bone, some kind of fire still rages on in my heart as I enter a world hidden deep beneath flesh and blood, in the farthest reaches of my brain!

At first, it's the usual!... Fleeting thoughts across the surface of the brain, about daily events, yesterday's class, tomorrow's celebrations, and so on and so forth... These thoughts go away as fast as they had appeared and do not make much of an impression. But, as one looks deeper, ........much much deeper!... , the thoughts become way more transparent. These are not fleeting thoughts, but are much more static, calm, definite and permanent. In fact, they are less like thoughts and more like the very things which define you and validate your existence!... 

So, Who Am I? Well, you might think, just another guy who went to school and following the usual trend, entered the engineering stream along with his friends and is now writing some philosophical crap on the internet! Hehe...Well, not quite!!!...There's much more to it than you would expect! I am the kind of guy who dreams of doing big things in life and strives his best towards it; but something always happens, a twist in the tale, a crack in the fuse, whenever I put my mind to something! Just for instance, during our college fests, I am one of the very few who have both the required technical know-how and the willingness to work but always has a hard time finding a team to work with. But let's not delve into all that! All of us have had our moments of glory too!... The new year is all about acknowledging one's past achievements and at the same time learning from one's past mistakes.

Also, how am I placed in life right now? That's another deeply ingrained question which I ask myself all the time, which is not so easy to answer. My personal life, with my amazing family and wonderful close friends, could scarcely get any better! My childhood has been fairly enjoyable, and I couldn't wish for much more! As far as my academic life is concerned, I have my own yardsticks for judging myself, but in general, I have cracked almost all the major exams in my life with reasonably good results, maybe some in which I would've liked to do better, but that's alright; I tried my best and that's what counts! So, is it that I'm really well placed? Well maybe; but not necessarily! Everyone is fighting a battle of their own at different levels; maybe not economically or physically, but emotionally or existentially!

So, all in all the situation is as complex as ever without too many well-defined answers, but isn't that what makes life so interesting? Anyhow, there is definitely one thing that I'll be carrying forth this new year and that is: "YOU should be defined by YOU"! Confused? What I mean is, you shouldn't be defined by where you're from or where you've studied or which family you belong to, etc, etc. You should be accepted and recognized by who you are and what you are, and your positives should be appreciated as they are! Everyone is unique and that's a gift! If you are prudently uncommon, one in a million, then you're special and people should not wish you to be like someone else of their choice!!!..... So, let's go out there, define ourselves and make a statement in this amazing brand-new year!!!.....

Honestly, I don't feel like stopping here because blogging gives me the feeling of close interaction with someone who might share the same thoughts as me, but a full stop must be drawn at some point or the other. So, until next year guys,

ALL THE BEST FOR 2012!!!  

   AND

A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL!!!

Understanding People!

Somehow, it so happens that when we try to solve issues in our lives, they tend to get more and more tangled and complicated as we think deeper, instead of rendering a simple straight forward solution. Such an issue in my life is simply understanding the people I have around me!...

Now, this might not be regarded as an 'issue' by most people, but my brain just works a little differently! What truly amazes me is the variety of different situations that people are in and the way in which these situations have moulded their lives in totally different ways!...Everyone has their own way of living, specially adapted to suit one's circumstances. It is when these circumstances are not mutually understood, that misunderstandings take place. And it's this level of mutual understanding, which I'd like to call 'maturity', irrespective of age or anything else.

For instance, if someone tells us something unpleasant, it might apparently be to just hurt us, but many a times it may turn out to be a friendly suggestion to help us improve ourselves, or it may be an offhand remark from a casual person to draw some eyeballs, not really caring how we react to it. So, as we can see, the intentions may vary from being slightly negative to completely positive and the same remark may thus come from a friend or foe, alike. The rest depends on our perception of the event, which makes us react in different ways, according to our own maturity levels.

Furthermore, what needs to be understood is that there's always an unseen extension to everything that's said. For example, if you say something out of sheer confidence without much of a solid base, technically there's always an unheard 'I bet' attached to it. Similarly, when you exude confidence emphasizing you'll surely achieve something solely trusting your guts, there's always an unheard 'if I can' attached to it (remember this is the real world and not the 'Matrix'). Also, if you say 'there's no way...', it always has an unheard 'unless...' attached to it. But if we get too embroiled with these extensions it would drive us crazy; so most of us simply abstract the bit that's useful to us. Oh! well... I'd rather prefer 'let's find out', which doesn't leave much to the imagination! 

So, as I had initially mentioned, we can already see a simple remark taking on a life of its own, complicating matters as we try to delve into it. Now, a huge majority of people would just ignore such a thing, but it plays havoc in the over-working mind of a guy like me. I just cannot seem to ignore anything, no matter how small or how big it is; and analyzing it like this, probably only leads to a waste of time, but I also appreciate the fact that a clear mind is always better than a confused one. That's the true reason I decided to write this blog; to get certain things off my chest!...

Now, there are loads of related issues and questions that remain unanswered, for example:-

* Should we be influenced by someone else's attitude towards us?

* Should we give a damn to what others think about us?

* Should we live life by our own rules, even if those 'rules' are widely 'un'-accepted?

* Where exactly should we draw the line between 'friends' and 'others'?

and finally, but more obviously,..............

* Does this whole thing need to be evaluated so precisely and statistically at all?

Well, it's for you to answer all that, but I assure you its not going to be easy. Personally though, I have adapted to my own experiences and circumstances, and have decided to live my life by my own rules, because having a constant attitude, even if mildly different, is still much better than living in constant doubt, don't you think?...We must realize that ultimately, our future will be shaped by us ourselves and not by any no-good bystander! At the end of the day, we have to carry our own batons across the finish line, whether anyone else cares or not, for our own sake and for the sake of those who really care for us. So, stop "thinking" and go out there and "do" whatever you have to do, to be successful, and achieve everything you have aimed for! This is the true meaning of life!!!...So;

ALL THE BEST!!!...

& of course,

   BE THE FORCE!!!...