Wedding Bells Ringing!

Probably one of my last bachelor parties... #Officers' Farewell, 2017

Lucky are those who find love but luckier are those whom love finds! I guess the time that marks the end of my uncommitted wanderings and those wacky bachelor parties has finally arrived. As the Indian society steadily evolves with people becoming progressively vocal about their desires, the era where love meant eloping with your partner and an arrangement literally meant a blind wedding, is slowly but surely drawing to a close prompting such nomenclatures as ‘love - cum (no pun intended) - arranged’ to gain traction, although at times still misplaced at the butt end of unflattering wisecracks. In essence, one's academia, professional networks, communities or other such commonalities may play cupid in introducing a promising couple to one another, with the final call to run with the ball however undividedly resting with the latter, ofttimes culminating in an official relationship or more. It was no different in my case...

Having had my equitable chunk of intimacy with the fairer sex over the past septennial or so, from callow missies readily falling head over heels to touchy-feely hypocrites beyond the pale of their own self-set boundaries, I think I’d see a red flag a mile away... But this surely wasn’t one! I remember the first time I had met my gal... She looked dazzling draped in an elegant silky blue saree, the depth of her gaze, the simplicity of her smile and her beautiful flowing hair, working their charm. I think we were smitten with each other almost instantly... We started chatting and dating, and things moved so fast from there on, with no formalities, no confusion, no pathetic friend-zoning for years on end and hence no restraints, that we knew we were in for the long haul! Sorry for any broken hearts along the way ;P  

So, although it was a whirlwind romance in my case, but this entire process of bride hunting from the perspective of both self and kin can be a real eye-opener for many! So, how exacting do you think that finding a decent, leave alone a perfect match of choice for an eligible groom can be? I mean look at the number of parameters that are taken into account at least by those sensible enough, starting from looks, education & family background to medical, occupational, cultural & emotional compatibility & what not! The list is endless...

So, first... Looks! What is it all about? Although science claims that on an absolute scale a person whose facial and bodily proportions closely resemble the golden ratio could be termed beautiful, as such shapes apparently facilitate easy scanning of images by the human eye & subsequent interpretation by the brain, the reason behind it has not yet been completely unraveled and I feel beauty is far more subjective than that. After all, we all have our unique tastes and judge with different measuring sticks (again no pun intended)!

This is furthermore reflected by the fact that people for the most part, have opposing inklings about the same photograph, which may by the way be a very poor and incomplete depiction of oneself far removed from reality. Some gape wide-eyed in awe while certain others with chronic low self-esteem, probably never having been acknowledged themselves, view everyone else too as average or ‘just another pretty face’. Oh, and a minute of silence for those who would rather bash the bishop to anime chicks than engage in amorous congress... Hehe... Sorry, that one really cracks me up! Basically, it’s your opinion that counts because at the end of the day it is your life and no one else’s.

As far as I'm concerned, the girl I would eventually fall in love with is undeniably the most ravishing in my world. A lawyer by profession, she’s perfect in terms of locational compatibility too. We survived a scare about her blood group being rhesus negative but fortunately it turned out to be otherwise. What all of us must realize is that if we are determined to find a flaw in someone theoretically perfect in every way, we will still succeed by detecting faults where none exist! Hence, within the limits of practicality, I know for sure that you are my perfect match my sweet Acushla, and I confess that never before have I nor ever will I feel love in its truest form as I have felt for you...